a lofty dream

perhaps for some it might be a weird dream. but it is one i have none the less. to own and live in a loft apartment. i don't know why. perhaps because it captures the heart of my imagination. perhaps because to me it captures funky and simplicity together. all in one small yet sophisticated space. not crowded. not tacky. not busy. just perfect. the way i want it. the way i see it in my head. it is a clear picture. what is your lofty dream. the one you think is to silly to even voice or talk about. dream it. write it down. don't push it aside. don't discard it as being unachievable. that is why we call them dreams. they are suppose to be to big for us to achieve...yet still achievable. hope you get it. dust of the discarded dreams. polish them. improve them. enlarge them.

face the music

i think life would be a better place if people would start to speak or voice what they feel on the inside. why do we find it so hard to speak the truth. to get it all out. no, we rather mumble and complain. we rather gossip and tell others about so-and-so instead of facing up to the person or situation in question. face the music. no more holding back. say what you have to. get it out! can we please get a bit of honesty back. what has happened to transparency? don't we trust each other anymore to speak the truth in love. i mean surely if you are in a relationship or friendship with someone we should be mature enough to give or receive honest commentary on our lives? we all have issues. we all make mistakes. nobody is perfect. yet we find it virtually impossible to have a honest conversation anymore. we hide and cover up. we lie and deceive. we back-stab and hurt one another. when will it end. when will enough be enough. can we please draw a line in the sand. tell me what you think. don't tell somebody else. tell it straight to my face. tell me point blank. i can handle it.

the way it is suppose to be

very few people can say that they have everything they want in life. i certainly cant. but i am getting there...that supposedly unattainable island called contentment. but some of us live very close to that island, sometimes tasting the fat of the land. i am currently in such a place where the simple things in life paint a canvas of  contentment. i am married to the most amazing girl ever. our lives are simple yet so rich and full. we live a village lifestyle. we frequent locals. we build relationships. for the reason that we live within our capacity. we allow people into our lives. we don't allow ourselves to get carried away. yet we dream. our dreams are big. bigger than what we can attain ourselves. thus we live in that place between today and tomorrow. a place that contains enough of today's challenges yet also enough of tomorrow's dreams. it is a place between faith and hope. faith for today's challenges. and hope. for the fulfillment of tomorrow's dreams. in everything we simplify. we get rid of the clutter. whether it means throwing away things we don't use or clearing the head, soul and spirit of unnecessary issues and stress. cause if you don't you will miss the beauty that every day holds. every day has a promise with your name on it. but the clutter will cause you not to see it. it will also obscure your view of the dreams of tomorrow. so what do you do? simplify...

the nguni man

Nguni cattle, a hardy, colorful breed indigenous to Southern Africa, holds a significance in every sphere of local tribal culture. The beautiful cattle are symbols of wealth and a sacred link with the ancestors. The Nguni cattle, long the mainstay of traditional African culture, are possibly the most beautiful cattle in the world, with their variously patterned and multicolored hides in demand everywhere. For hundreds of years, the well-being of herds and African people have been so closely connected that the cattle have become a part of the people's spiritual and aesthetic lives. To this day the Nguni cow the symbol of wealth, status and respect.

to the Nguni man - DF FYFER.

allow yourself to be inspired

daily you are being bombarded by different things and ideas. from various sources. whether it is in the media or from people you are constantly facing external factors that can shape your thoughts and ultimately your life if you allow it to. but you have the power to determine what you allow in and what you block out. yet so few people apply the wisdom to filter what they take in. the lack the knowledge to understand what is good for them and what is not. they become frustrated and intolerant. they become blunt and uninspired. the reason is they allow external sources to sap the life from their existence and neglect to find that which is life giving. they don't allow themselves to be inspired. they hang around negative people and stay in jobs that sucks every last drop of creativity from their lives. slaves to a system that sells pseudo-security and -happiness. they outsource their futures and their dreams. they lack the drive to take responsibility for their own destiny. they loose any chance of being inspired by the simple things in life. the small things that makes life what it is. the sun rise. the rainbow. their own reflection in a puddle of water. the sensation of a gentle breeze on their face. the taste of good meat. the smell of a good red wine. everything has become grey and monotonous to them. cos their systems have shut down...polluted by filth that was never intended to fill our souls. what are you feeding your soul? what are you allowing in? what should rather remain outside? allow the good to inspire you.

no regrets

it is a fact of life. we all get it wrong sometimes. some of us more than others. but that is only because we don't allow life to take its course. we keep on getting in the way. our emotions and feelings gets tangled up in the realities that we face. and so we get lost in it all. but let us face facts. for some making a decision is a frightening experience. for others it is as easy as switching on a light switch. i was again reminded today of this fact after having a eye-opening chat with my wife. we should really get to that place where we live without any regrets. sure thing. it is not nice to get it wrong. but to me the following is what makes all the difference. i never ask myself the question whether or not i have made the correct decision if something does not work out the way i wanted it to. in other words whether i was right or wrong. i ask myself: DID IT SERVE A PURPOSE...and then i move on. cos we allow ourselves to loose momentum and get stuck on issues that changes nothing. so i think to live without regrets is to live without the fear of being wrong or the fear of FAILURE. make confident decisions. cos ultimately the challenge of making a decision is not to make the decision but rather living the decision that you have made and its consequences.